We Became A Shoe Free Home and It Has Nothing To Do With Cleaning

My children live on the floor. It doesn’t matter if we are in the living room, kitchen, or bedroom they are constantly stretching out on the floor to play, read, or watch tv. That has always bothered me and forced me to constantly say, “get up off that nasty floor!” mostly after they had already had their nightly baths and pj’s on. Technically the floors were never “nasty” because I try to stick to a reasonable cleaning routine that I’ve done for years, but it still bothered me to see them all stretched out on the floors that had just acquired the same germs from the shoes that we had just worn into the pee-pee filled floor from some public restroom. I know that I can’t protect them from all of the germs, but we can live comfortably in our own home right?shoe-free-home-the-mommy-365

My husband is a General Contractor and he goes into some really yucky places with his work boots most of the time. It always bothered me knowing that those places were coming into our home via the bottom of his boots. He finally stopped wearing them in the house after I pointed out his daily dirt trails in our bedroom carpet and other places. Yuck! I made the suggestion for us to try going shoeless for a weekend just to see how it worked for our lifestyle. This meant that we would only put on our shoes at the door and remove them once we entered back in.

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It took some getting used to and of course, we forgot a few times. I did purchase a shoe tray for each door in our home so that we wouldn’t have to take our shoes to our closet immediately and to keep the doorway from looking cluttered. We were already familiar with removing our shoes on rainy days, so now it was just getting into the routine of doing it on other days. My son was the first to say that he loved the “no shoes” life in our home. That made me happy! After a few days of going shoeless in our home, it was time to clean the carpets and floors once over to make sure that we had a fresh start. I decided to add a basket with socks and shoe covers just in case visitors didn’t feel comfortable removing their shoes. So far, I’ve only had a few eye rolls and you already know that I don’t care. It’s our home and we have a right to live how we want inside of our home.

I was pleasantly surprised to find out from a few people that visited our home that they know lots of people that have the same “no shoe” rule in their own homes, so they were more than comfortable with respecting our request in our home. I was told by a few of our visitors that the people that they know that live shoe-free at home was because they wanted to keep their floors and carpets pristine and for others, it’s because of issues with their immune system. I never even knew that wearing shoes in your own home could negatively affect your health or immune system. I always believed and kind of still do, that a few germs are necessary to build up a healthy immune system. However, I was not shocked when this clip from The Today Show revealed just how nasty our shoes are and reasons that support my family’s efforts for going shoe-free.

Shortly after we became a shoe-free home we were invited to one of my daughter’s friends house for a birthday party. Surprisingly this home was also shoe-free and of course, we were no strangers to this way of living. I’ll admit that it kind of reassured me that I was still a normal mom and wife with just a preference on how I wanted things in my home. I could care less about cleaning. I am not against that, it actually is kind of therapeutic at times. Laundry is the monster that I hate in my home. I know that we have made the right choice for now. Going shoeless in your home may not be the right choice for you, but if you are considering it here are a few ways to get started today.

6 ways to become a shoe free home

 Carmen

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Self-Care Sunday: My Routine & Products for March

Self-Care Sunday is my new monthly blog series where I will share my monthly Sunday routine including what I’m reading/watching, products, and just my overall self-care necessities and favorites. I know you all have probably read a lot about self-care and have your own idea about what that means. Self-care for me is overall care for my mind, body, and soul. There is a beauty aspect for my body, but it’s also my way of just taking more time to do something for myself and preferably uninterrupted. I definitely enlist the help of my husband to take over with the kids 100%. This time makes me feel special and important. It allows me to care for myself and I deserve that after a busy week. It makes my mental outlook on my life more stable and balanced. It’s a time for me to slow down and put myself together for more busy days.

I start my Sunday self-care routine by escaping to the quietest room in my house. In the morning that’s my living room. I make sure that it is clean and organized before I go to bed on Saturday night so that I can wake up and enjoy being in the room without feeling the need to do anything, but care for myself. I like to begin with a little praise and worship. If I wake up with a song in my heart I will play it on YouTube or allow Amazon Music to rotate different songs on my favorite station. Next up I read my devotional on the YouVersion Bible App and after that, I like to read a scripture and finish with prayer and meditation.

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When I’m done with my morning quiet time I move on to my treadmill. I like to walk/jog for 30 minutes. While I’m doing all of this I’m sipping on my necessary, but not favorite lemon water. It helps me to not feel bloated. My treadmill time allows me to not only focus on my heart and physical health, but it also allows me to catch up on one of my podcasts or a YouTube channel.

My morning shower consists of me using my favorite products, exfoliating, shaving if necessary and listening to music. Can you believe that I use to be embarrassed to sing and dance around my husband? I was and I don’t know why. Now, I sing whenever and wherever and especially in the shower. If he catches me he just smiles.

I make my shower last as long as possible or until I can hear my family waking up. When I’m done I put me on pause for a little while and we all get ready for church. This includes me having a good breakfast, makeup/hair, perfume etc. Sundays are the days that I actually put in more effort for my looks. I like to do a full face for makeup, maybe heels, and a cute handbag now that I’ve ditched my diaper bag.

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After church, I like to shampoo, condition, and style my hair. I’m a natural hair woman so this can be an all-day process if I’m not careful. In between conditioning and styling, I normally start making dinner and I listen to my favorite podcast; I normally have to pause or rewind a few times because everyone suddenly and mysteriously needs me when they see me enjoying my time. That’s parenting for you!

After dinner, I apply a facial mask or scrub. If I haven’t gotten my nails/toes done professionally I take my time and remove any old polish from my nails/toes and trim or file them to prep for some polish. I take a quick shower and then I soak in a warm pH bath. My pH bath is simply organic apple cider vinegar and baking soda. I love listening to music during my bath time and I definitely burn a scented soy candle.

After my bath time, I make sure that the kids are getting ready for bed and of course help if I need to help. If I’m not doing polish that day I sit in bed and read and catch another show. If you are wondering if I go back and clean up my kitchen or do anything else to the home, the answer is nope! I make sure to clean as I cook and everyone is then responsible for placing their dirty dishes into the dishwasher.

That’s it! If you don’t have a self-care routine I hope that my self-care Sunday routine will inspire you to create one just for you. Will my routine change? Possibly, but right now this is what works for me!

My March Favorites for My Self-Care Sunday Routine:

Praise & Worship Music – Tasha Cobb Station on Amazon

Devotionals from YouVersion Bible App – “Read Through The New Testament”, “UnSupermommy,” and “Understanding Evil: Devotions from Your Time of Grace”

Facial Products – Facial Scrub and Mask, Anti Wrinkle Moisturizer, Alcohol-Free Toner, Coconut Eye Cream

Body Products Exfoliating TowelShaving Cream, Moisturizer, Bath SoapBody Wash  

Hair Products Shampoo, Conditioner, Styling Cream, Hair GelHair Oil 

Candle – Soy Candle

BookPraying Circles Around Your Children

Favorite Shows – Netflix (Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt) YouTube (Grandpa Kitchen, Soulful T, and Dr. Josh Axe)

Podcasts Chrystal Evans Hurst and The Kindness Podcast

 

Carmen

 

 

What American Parents Should Do Now Post 9/11

I will never forget September 11, 2001. I was a freshman in college and I was already away from campus to prepare for a family members funeral in another city. I was in my grandmother’s living room watching The Today Show. Back then the show aired live with the twin towers as the backdrop.  As we watched we saw one plane crash into the building and I vividly remember us both staring at each other, shocked, and boom the second plane followed causing nothing but devastation.  America was under attack and all of us were angry, hurt, concerned, and ready to fix the problem.

Now we’re here. America, the land of the free, home of the brave, ethnic mistreatment, racial turmoil, misogynistic values, and pure hate with pure intent to divide people. We’ve turned back and I’m sure God isn’t pleased.  Our core values are being flipped and I blame the ill will of our country’s leader. After  9/11 people chose to work together to defend and believe in solidarity that this country was the best place to live in the world. Now 17 years later, other countries watch and laugh at our country’s leaders that chose to mistreat children and separate them because of their ethnicity. Racism is brewing as hot as the days of Jim Crow, but people want to place the blame of ill-treatment on most of the victims. What a great time for us to have cell phone videos and social media, or else those victims bodies may be dumped in creeks in the south just as they were on hot summer days when my grandfather was alive and young. Our President is leading hate and intentionally making those without Godly intentions cause strife. Families can’t eat at a Subway while traveling without the cashier accusing them of robbery. Mother’s can’t take their daughters swimming without being accused of jumping the swimming pool fence. I could go on and on, but I would rather give a solution.

Don’t allow anyone to say that we can’t do anything until the President is removed from his position. As parents, we can do so much. We can begin by telling our children and reminding them of how special they are to God and to us.  We have to build their self-esteem so that it’s not more comfortable for them to break someone else’s.  Narcissism and racism are a lot alike. There is so much danger when people with these characteristics are in a place of leadership and influence. We are raising the next generation of leaders and those characteristics have no place in America anymore. We have to teach our children that love and respect have no color, price tag, or gender. We all are important in the eyes of a very patient and loving God. America has always been a melting pot and nothing is going to change that. We need to allow our children to make friends with children that are different. We learn how to live in a very real world when we respect the differences of others at a much younger age. We need to teach forgiveness. We need to teach tolerance when it does not cause others physical harm. Even God tells us that we are forgiven but we should not continue with the same wrong choices in our lives. There is a lot of greatness in America, but we have to make a conscious effort to stick with that and not the hate and prejudices that are literally and figuratively trumping us from moving forward with equal opportunities and fair treatment for everyone.

We should never forget the heroes and victims of 9/11. We can honor them with love and respect by becoming a united group of people the same way that we were in rebuilding our country in 2001.